Viv recounts how her husband abruptly decided he no longer wanted the marriage three weeks before she gave birth, then moved out, leaving her to navigate a newborn, impending divorce, and the fallout of his ongoing contact with an ex. She frames the breakup with dark humor and blunt specifics: the relationship included polyamory, his intermittent verbal abuse, plans toward 50/50 custody, and his refusal to explain why he left beyond saying “there is something wrong with me.” The narrative balances raw moments - she physically assembled a box of rings, keys, a ketubah and broken wedding-glass shards and stores it under her couch - with wry asides about blogging, dating again, moving cities, and the logistics of childcare while working.
Her tone is defiant and irreverent: she’s mostly over the rupture, is dating, plans an extravagant “divorce party” with a DJ and hot tub, and insists she still believes in love. Practical details and personality shine through in a FAQ format that oscillates between sarcasm and sincerity - she’s open to remarrying (possibly monogamously), avoids private contact with her ex without witnesses, and even offers cosmetic advice (sunscreen and topical retinoid). The piece functions as a cathartic inventory of loss, boundaries, and rebooting life with a four-month-old baby and a clear-eyed, sardonic voice.
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